Emails That Get Responses

Your first email when you’re getting ready for a one night stand has to be not only clear, but illuminating. This should be something that makes your intentions perfectly understandable. In other words…

Make sure she knows you’re looking for sex.

This doesn’t mean that you have to be vulgar about what you’re looking for. That’s not going to win you any points with anyone, and might get her to block you or even report you for harassment.

To be clear, when we say, “Tell a woman what you want,” we don’t mean, “Tell a woman you want to rub your face into her breasts.” We mean, “Tell a woman that you’re looking for some no strings attached sex.”

Here are two examples of NSA dating messages that got us results.

Email 1: “Hi, Lara. I couldn’t help but notice the little spark of challenge in your smile; I love a woman that can really hold her own. I love how forthright and honest you are in your profile, but I have a feeling that, like me, you’re holding a little something back.”

Email 2: “Hi, Caitlin. I love that you’re such an avid reader; as a writer myself, I appreciate those who appreciate the written word. It reminds me of all the things I want to say to you when I see that look in your eyes in that picture with the red dress…”

Feel free to use these as templates. All women like hearing pretty much the same thing in a first email for having a one night stand, so don’t feel that you have to change them up too much.

Ask her what she wants.

Once you’ve made first contact, don’t be shy about asking this woman what exactly she’s looking for from a first date. She might not be ready to tell you, but asking is important anyway.

Make sure she knows that she can feel comfortable sharing her sexual desires with you. You don’t want to be the guy she can’t tell those things to. You want to be the guy that makes all of the fantasies she’s embarrassed about having come true.

This might take a little work, but by the time you go on that first mind-blowing date, it’ll be worth it.