Let’s be honest – or not. You’re looking for a one night stand, and that means you don’t have to worry about whether or not your date is going to find out about that time you got drunk at last year’s Christmas party. You don’t have to worry about finding out most things about your date, either – but that doesn’t mean you want to hold out on things that she needs to know.

Yes, there are some things that your one night stand needs to know, even if you’re planning on hooking up with her once and never again. She might not need to know the full extent of your bank account, but she does need to know a few key pieces of information. Don’t worry. We’re not about being excessively honest. Everything else, you can go ahead and keep to yourself if you don’t think it’s relevant.

What Diseases (If Any) You Have

Sorry to be the buzzkills, but you definitely need to tell any woman that you want to hook up with about what diseases you have. Of course, this only applies to communicable diseases, and anything that might affect her. If she’s going to need to give you some kind of injection at any point in the evening (or even if she might need to), she needs to know about it. If she’s going to run the risk of contracting something from having sex with you, she needs to know about it. Not only is this way into the realm of common courtesy, but according to the CDC in some states, you are breaking the law if you withhold that information. Make sure you disclose anything she needs to know, for her sake and for your own.

Time Limits You Have

If she’s going to need to be gone by daybreak, she needs to know about it. If you’re going to need to hide in a closet at some point, both of you need to know about it. If there are any time limits you have to deal with – if you have to pick someone up, if you have to meet someone, and if you have to do anything that you know about in advance – you need to tell your hookup before you start the date.

Necessary Kinks You Have

It’s definitely not necessary to tell your one night stand about all of your kinks. You might not even know all of them, and that’s fine, too. But if there are certain kinks that you need to play with in order to get off, your date definitely needs to know about them in advance. Don’t just assume that she’ll be fine with it. If you don’t care whether or not she does something, feel free to ask her in the heat of the moment – and know that you might not get it. However, if it’s a deal-breaker, you have to ask before either of you show up to the date, or you’ll both be disappointed.