In general, what makes a great first date is largely up to the people involved. If you’re going to be going out with an awesome woman, you’re probably going to have a great first date no matter where you go. However, this isn’t always the case. There are some first dates that are just bad ideas, and whether you’re looking to start a relationship or just hook up for the night, you want to make sure that you’re not taking your date to one of these. Some examples of a bad first date include:
On paper, concerts seem like a fantastic first date. This is especially true if you’re going to be going out somewhere that you both like. However, there are some definite downsides to taking a woman to a concert. The first and most important one is that concerts are very difficult to hear. You’re going to be hearing nothing but the band all night, whether you want to or not. Concerts are great for hearing bands, but they’re bad for hearing your date. If you’re dying to see them play, why go on a night when you’re more focused on who’s sitting next to you? If you’re not that interested in the concert, why not just take her somewhere you can hear each other.
Another reason not to go to a concert as a first date is that they can be expensive. Tickets are a great date gift, but they’re terrible for the first date. You want to make sure that she doesn’t think you’re buying her something expensive just so she’ll put out. No woman likes to feel like she’s being purchased.
Picnics are very romantic, and just about any site will recommend that they’re a great “alternative” date. However, there are a few things to consider, especially if this is just a hookup date. First, you have to think of your surroundings. You’ll only be able to do this in the middle of the day, so no evening dates will work here unless the weather is perfect. Second, you might have to deal with other people infiltrating your spot and your date – you could wind up getting a football thrown right into your food. Third, unless you’re a great cook, you’re going to find a much better meal at a restaurant. Food is very closely linked to sex in a woman’s mind – make sure she’s making good connections.
Anything with Family
We cannot stress this enough: do NOT make your family part of a first date. We don’t care how special you think this girl is. This also goes for any friends you think of as family. This is not the time for her to have to memorize ten new names. This is the time for her to decide whether she wants to sleep with you or not, and subjecting her to your friends and family is not going to do the trick. Do you know anyone who likes embarrassing you for fun? That’s usually family.