One Night Stand Tip: The First Date

Setting up your first date is very important if you want to have any chance of getting lucky—and we know you do. This is the best and easiest way to make a good impression, and your first chance to really mess up.

For a proper booty call, you and the woman you’re meeting both know that you’re planning to meet up for sex. There aren’t going to be any surprises about that, so there shouldn’t be any weirdness.

Tell her about any of your kinks you want to try.

Remember that a man who knows and says what he wants is more likely to get what he wants. Women like a man who will take charge, and one that seems powerful. This is important if you really want to have certain kinks of yours fulfilled.

Suggest kinks to the woman you’re hooking up with.

It’s OK if she says no. One of our best pieces of one night stand advice is to make sure not to be shy. If a woman wants to turn you down, she’ll turn you down. It won’t be any better if she’s shy. She’ll just have an easier time ignoring you.

If you want her to try out your kinks, you’re going to have to come right out and say them. Don’t worry about looking stupid, either. This is a one night stand. If you don’t want to see her ever again, you never have to see her ever again if you don’t want to.

Have an exit strategy.

Things may not be what they seem. In an ideal world, this wouldn’t be the case once you’ve already been talking to this woman and seeing if you have much of anything in common.

If things do start to go pear-shaped, you want to be able to get out as fast as possible without setting off anyone’s alarms, physical or mental. The easiest way is to have a friend set up a time to call you.

If the date is going horrible, just answer, “The hospital?” Then have your friend tell some story about someone who’s been in an accident. If the date is going well, pretend it’s a friend inviting you over, and let her hear you say, “No, I’m on a date that I’m really enjoying.” That’s flattering to her.