Giving a girl a gift is a great way to get in good right from the get-go, whether you’re meeting her for the first date of many or for a single night of fun. However, giving a girl a gift can be difficult. You know that you don’t want to go so big that you put her off, or you make her think you’re trying to pay for sex. On the other hand, you don’t want to go so small that you`’re offending her. Here are some gifts that you should avoid giving to a woman because they’re insultingly small and not worth her time:
Giving a woman sweets is a great idea. However, you have to be very discerning about this kind of thing. The ONLY exception to the rule about not giving her low-end candy is if she’s explicitly stated in her profile or a message to you that she loves a certain kind. If she talks five times on her dating profile about how much she loves Skittles, give her five or six packs of Skittles. But if she just says she has a sweet tooth, do not show up with a pack of Skittles. Anything that you can impulse-buy at the supermarket in the checkout lane is probably too low-end for a gift (unless you shop somewhere really swanky).
Is it the thought that counts? Not in a first gift to a woman you want to sleep with. Yes, a card is a decent alternative to a gift for some people at certain points in their lives. However, it’s a terrible, horrible idea if you’re looking to have sex with a woman. In this case, getting her a card just says that she’s not really worth all that much of your time and attention. Worse still, what do you write in it? If you don’t write anything, you’re really showing her that you don’t care. If you want to write something, good luck thinking of something other than “Can’t wait for tonight!” That card is going right in the trash, along with your chances of getting laid.
Tissues and Such
Bath and beauty products are a mixed bag as far as suitability for gifts. On one hand, you want to give her something that she’ll use, and you can definitely do that with certain products that she’ll find useful. However, you don’t want to give her something so useful that it’s just utilitarian and not romantic at all. Body lotion is a go, tissues are a no. Again, unless she specifically mentioned that she NEEDS and LOVES getting gallon jugs of vinegar, utilitarian gifts are best left for several dates in, when you can more accurately gauge what she’d want or need to have around. Even then, just let her pick it out herself. You don’t want your gift to make her think that you assume she’s incapable of taking care of herself. That’s not a good way to start a date.